Compulsive Sexual Behavior (CSB)
Sexual sin produces consequences that affect those involved deeply. It defiles the body and damages its ability to fulfill God’s purposes. In its quest to be God, Devil counterfeits most things God created for the enjoyment and pleasure of humankind. Lust is the counterfeit of love, and lust leads to sexual addiction, better known as Compulsive Sexual Behavior (CSB).
CSB has devastating effects on humankind. Like most behaviors, sex can be taken to obsessive and compulsive extremes. It destabilizes the brain, causes mental malfunctioning, makes people misbehave, and gets them disoriented.
Sex taken to an extreme, causes spiritual separation. Rather than think of pure love of God and oil fellowship with your creator, you are entangled in lustful feelings that degrade your personality and ruin your relationship with God.
God created sex for couples to enjoy and, through the act, join God in the creation continuum, but the devil uses sex to cause chaotic situations in the world. Sexual obsessions and compulsions are recurrent and distressing and interfere with daily functioning. There are two main types of Sexual addiction or Compulsive sexual behavior (CSB). They are:
- Paraphilic and
Sexual scientists describe the phenomenon of CSB as:
- Hyper Sexuality
The various terminologies imply different values, attitudes & theoretical orientations.
Paraphilic CSB is the sexual urge or behavior involving nonhuman objects, the suffering or humiliation of oneself or one’s partner or children, or other non-consenting persons.
The Most Common Paraphilic CSBs are:
- Pedophilia is a sexual attraction to pre-pubescent children.
- Exhibitionism is a sexual excitement associated with exposing one’s genitals in public.
- Voyeurism is a sexual excitement from watching an unsuspecting person.
- Sexual Masochism is a sexual excitement from receiving the threat or administration of pain.
- Sexual Sadism is a sexual excitement from threatening or administration of pain.
- Transvestic Fetishism is a sexual excitement from wearing the clothing of the opposite sex. Male and Female adolescents engage in gender-bending. This practice involves males dressing like females, such as hair plaiting, ear piercing, jerry coils or dyeing of head hairs, etc. Females wear men’s trousers and, at times, act and manifest masculine traits. These types of sexual perversion are used to lure or harass victims.
- Frotteurism is a sexual excitement from touching or rubbing an unsuspecting person. It takes the form of mild transgressions to severe abuses in sexual touching.
All these forms of Paraphilic CSB are not conventional sexual behaviors. They are degrading and lowering the self-esteem of those involved, leading to crime.
Non-Paraphilic CSB involves conventional sexual behaviors but is recurrent, distressing, and interferes in daily functioning when taken to an extreme. The forms of Non-Paraphilic CSB include Compulsive:
- Fixation on an unattainable partner
- Love relationships; and
- Sexuality in a relationship
The Causes of Compulsive Sexual Behavior (CSB) is a complex disorder that involves biological, psychological, and social factors. The treatment at times involves a combination of psychotherapy and prescription drugs. Sexual addiction, like other addictions, is a sin.
- It defiles the body and damages its ability to fulfill God’s Purpose (1Cor.: 12-20).
- It grieves God’s Spirit (Eph 4:31, 1Thess 5:19).
- It forms a stronghold for evil (Rom 1:28-32).
- It causes Spiritual confusion (1 Tim 4:2, Titus 1:15, James 1:4, Heb 6:1-8).
- It causes emotional confusion and evil soul tie
- It destroys happiness, marriages, families, and friendship
- It leads to the unbridled pursuit of lust and perversion (Eph 4:19, Romans 1: 24-28) and
- It causes a loss of Sanctification, anointing, and Purity (1 Thess. 4: 3-5, Eph 5:3).
Addiction treatments like psychosurgery, psychoanalysis, psychedelics, self-help, acupuncture, group confrontation, family therapy, hypnosis, meditation, and education are suitable. Still, an addict need not depend on these alone but Christ and Prayer.
How do you recognize you need help?
- Do you or others who know you find that you are overly preoccupied or obsessed with sexual activity?
- Do you find yourself compelled to engage in sexual activity due to stress, anxiety, or depression?
- Have severe problems developed due to your sexual behavior, like losing a job or relationship, or have you contracted sexually transmitted diseases?
- Injuries or illnesses
- Sexual offenses
- Injuries or illnesses
- Sexual offenses
When you identify your behavior as falling under any CSB category, you need to find qualified professionals who can help you. Still, only in Christ can you get the most significant help you need.
- You can call for psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, and marriage and family therapists.
- If you are a student and in College, you can inquire through college or university psychology, psychiatric or counseling departments.
- You can also ask for a certified sex therapist.
The most significant help you need is to have Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior. In the Greek language, the way out of addiction is conversion, called Epistrepho. You need to move from sin to Christ, from darkness to Light, from idols to God, and get busy for the Lord. One needs to move from Sin to Christ, from darkness to Light, from Idols to God, and get busy for the LORD. Way out of Addiction also includes Power Encounter – a personal encounter with Jesus Christ by Putting to death all sinful desires as Paul echoed in Colossians 3:5 and Putting on or clothing self with godly attributes as in Colossians 3:12. You also have to be watchful, flee from any form of evil, meditate on the Word of God, and Pray (Matthew 26:41, Proverbs 7:1-3, Mark 1:35, Matthew 6:13).
For those who are not personally involved but have loved ones that are addicted, you must intercede for them. Intercessory Prayer is essential. And one should encourage loved ones to go for anointing and Spiritual Sanctification. Meditate on the Word of God and Pray (Matthew 26:41, Proverbs 7:1-3, Mark 1:35, Matthew 6:13). Christians need to experience the second blessing and be full of Holy Spirit manifestation to be saved from the schemes of the evil one. These include evil deeds that lead to addiction and, most significantly, sexual addiction. No one by himself is safe from sexual addiction except through God’s anointing and Sanctification.
You are called to the path of righteousness, which can only be achieved by:
- Studying the Bible systematically;
- Studying the Bible comprehensively;
- Studying the Bible devotionally and;
- Studying the Bible prayerfully.